By Maurice Hunter
The quality of every human individual’s life experience is a direct result of the quality and depth of their understanding of a single word: Selflove.
These days, Selflove as a practice is rapidly increasing in popularity within the culture of personal development. Many people realize its importance. But even for the growing number of people awakening to the benefits of Selflove, its real significance and tremendous value appear to be greatly underestimated. There is literally a gap in the traditional view of Selflove, and a major part of my life’s purpose is to close that gap. I want to introduce you to a new perspective—one that brings your experience of self so close to your experience of love that you no longer see a difference.
By now, I’m guessing you’ve noticed that I spell Selflove as one word. You might be used to seeing it as two words or with a hyphen. At first sight, this version of Selflove looks different or strange, but when you look closely, you’ll notice that it’s the same word you’ve always seen, with a small yet significant adjustment. There is no separation between self and love, which appears to be a minor thing when seeing Selflove with eyesight, but when seeing it with insight, it becomes hugely significant. Within that tiny space of separation is the experience of a vast distance between you and your total well-being. When you experience the source of love as being within yourself, you will never go without it again.
What is Selflove?
Words can never tell you exactly what Selflove is. You must experience it, and that experience will be as expansive or as limited as your knowledge and understanding of the two words that create it.
How well do you know and understand self? How well do you know and understand love? Isn’t it interesting how these are two of the most important parts of the human life experience—and simultaneously two of the most misunderstood? It’s no wonder so many people struggle with loving themselves. Self can be described as the energy or consciousness that uses the mind to think and uses the body to act. I know it’s common for people to believe they are their mind and body, even though they routinely refer to them as my mind and my body. If you have a mind and a body, then you, the self, are not the mind and body.
Love can be described as the energy or consciousness that is present within all things and is expressed through the mind and body. Notice any similarities between self and love? They are essentially the same experience. Recall a time you had the experience of fully being yourself. How did you feel? Did it feel like time stopped, like you could do anything, and like you were fully alive and completely free of fear? Now recall a time you had an experience of being in love with someone or were doing something you love. How did you feel? Did it feel like time stopped, like you could do anything, and like you were fully alive and completely free of fear? Did you feel like you were fully yourself?
Life is a mind game you are playing with the mirror.
My Selflove Story
While writing a letter about self-value and self-empowerment to my two-year-old daughter several years ago, I discovered a new perspective of Selflove. Through expressing my love for her, the experience of love within me was revealed.
After many years of developing, practicing, and sharing this new perspective of Selflove, I realized that it is more than a practice: it’s my way of life. I believe every human “problem” has a Selflove solution. That is one reason why sharing Selflove became my life’s purpose. I intend to officially launch an organization this year that operates within a culture of Selflove. From the inside out, we’ll represent an “inner lifestyle” brand that operates on four core principles: inner experience, self-value, self-empowerment, and oneness. My vision is to create the ultimate working experience where working on yourself and working at the organization are synonymous. Our soul purpose is not to change the world we live in but to inspire change in the world inside each of us.
I’d like to share a few ideas from my upcoming book, 52 Weeks: A Self-Practice Book. It features a full year of daily exercises to help improve your self-relationship and expand your understanding and experience of Selflove.
Good practices for improving the quality of your self-relationship experience:
- Never say anything that goes against yourself, ever.
- Take, 100 percent, full, complete, and total responsibility for every single emotional experience you have.
- Just because a thought appears in your mind, it doesn’t make it yours. Make sure the thoughts you choose to believe are your conscious thoughts and not the conditioned thoughts you’ve adopted from other people or society.
Principles of Selflove to remember:
- There is only one love: Selflove. Every expression of love is an expression of Selflove.
- Selflove is not what you do to your body; it’s what you do to your mind.
- Selflove is the highest quality self-relationship. All relationships are a reflection of self-relationship. Every problem with any relationship is resolved within you.
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Can you now begin to envision a new Selflove? One that’s not merely a mental, physical, or emotional practice, but the ultimate spiritual practice that leads to a transcendence of all three and to the experience of wholly being yourself?
When you stop seeking them in your mind and the appearance of your body, the deep Selflove that you always have will be unveiled. The only thing between you and your experience of Selflove is a thought.
Everyone you see is a mirror reflecting various aspects of you. It’s a psychological reflection, not seen in the person you’re looking at or interacting with (their behavior, actions, words, attitude, appearance); it’s seen within you. It’s invisible, found within your mental and emotional response to each person. You are never reacting or responding to a person, place, or thing you encounter—you react to the thoughts that you believe about them. Because of this, no person, place, or thing can ever “make you” feel any emotion. You are 100 percent responsible for your emotional experiences. Adding this truth to your belief system will align you with your inner power and bring you closer to realizing that the love you seek from others is the love that is already within you and always has been.
How do you find Selflove?
I’m going to share something with you that everyone knows, but many are not aware that they know: you don’t have to find Selflove. You also don’t ever have to learn to love yourself—no one does. The reason for this is straightforward; you already and always love yourself. Self and love are inherent in your life experience. They are inescapable, present in every moment, and the present moment is all there is. Too often, you end up looking for self and love in all the wrong places. When you stop seeking them in your mind and the appearance of your body, the deep Selflove that you always have will be unveiled. The only thing between you and your experience of Selflove is a thought.
A Selflove Supreme
Love is all there is. Love is abundant. Love already has love. I’ll repeat that—love already has love. Therefore, it doesn’t need love. The energy of love only flows in one direction, from the inside out. Love only gives, and because there is only love, it is always giving to itself. So, the act of giving love is simultaneously the act of receiving it. There is no greater experience of receiving love than when you give it.
When you experience Selflove, you never need love from another because its source is within you. From this perspective, you can understand how every expression of love is an expression of Selflove. You can only give what you have, so when you love someone, you’re expressing and demonstrating the love you already have inside. If you are seeking love, look within. Take the time to feel the love within yourself when you give it to someone else. The more you love others, the more you love yourself. The supreme demonstration of Selflove is the expression of three simple yet powerful words: I love you.
How do you love yourself? Through the simplest and most complicated answer—love everyone. There’s nothing more beautiful than that!
Peace and Selflove.
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