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By Pamela Dowling

Dear Friends,

On my way to write to you today, I got distracted. I decided to take a moment and check my Facebook. Need I say more?

Then, when I actually began writing, the first thing I did was to look up the word “distraction” in the dictionary.

The following are a few meanings of the word:

  1. That which distracts us, divides our attention, or prevents concentration
  2. That which takes you away from what you are supposed to be doing
  3. A person who does either of the previous things mentioned

What I have personally discovered about distractions is that they can very well be the enemies of your soul and your destiny. How many times have you seen men and women become distracted by another person and taken off course from what they should be doing to improve themselves or their lives?

For example, imagine you get distracted by someone you fancy—particularly someone who might not be good for you, even if you don’t realize it right away. All you can think of is where they are, how they are, and if they are okay. You can be consumed by this, unable to focus or concentrate on the task before you. Your mind can even become overwhelmed by fears of things you can’t control. Ever been there? I certainly have, and it is not fun.

Years ago, I started to conduct seminars on “Restoring Excellent Customer Service.” I felt it was a passion in my heart. I wrote a small but effective manual on the topic and held my first seminar in a coffee shop. It was a success—people paid to come! It was a real work in progress, but it made me happy because I felt God meant for me to do it.

His kindness, patience, and love last for all eternity—what a comforting thought. We can all help others by remembering this kindness and passing it on whenever we can.

Shortly afterward, a man appeared on the scene. He was my distraction. Not only that, but I ended up trying to help him and never went back to what I had started. This distraction came from a great need inside me that I did not even realize was there—it was the need to be needed. We all have it, but it can become unhealthy. I am grateful I discovered this, but I was severely disappointed with myself and never went back to conducting the seminars. That not only deprived me of something that made me happy but also denied others the opportunity to learn from me. I believe God gave me this wonderful idea so I could help others.

My seminar addressed three topics, and they all had to do with honor: honoring yourself, honoring clients and customers, and honoring management. I have not always been successful at all three, but I have learned that experience is a wonderful teacher. If you fail, you get up and begin again.

Remember, people are not always forgiving, but God never gives up on us. His kindness, patience, and love last for all eternity—what a comforting thought. We can all help others by remembering this kindness and passing it on whenever we can.

Recently, I saw a quote on Facebook that said, “Whatever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy.” I began to think about that and how conducting my seminars made me feel. I am excited to say I have revamped my notes and prepared some new ones. Now I must find a venue!

My lesson is this, friends: Don’t allow distractions to steal you from your dreams and destiny. There are people that need the knowledge and spirit that are within you. You have worth and great value. Remember, God loves you. He never gives up on you, so don’t give up on yourself. Even if you get off course, you can find your way back.


Pamela Dowling

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